I met my husband through a Christian pen pal ministry 15+ years ago. I was given the name and info. Unbeknownst of one the most loving, caring Godly men I know, which would take my life in a very unexpected direction.
When I first came across his name I had no interest in any relationship and it was strongly advised not to get involved beyond ministry and support. Funny how love has a way of creeping into our lives! After a few months of corresponding by letter, then came pictures then phone conversations. Over time I was able to see how loving, kind and Godly he is.
I don’t think I really realized truly what I was walking into,15+ years ago as I became more and more in love with this man I am convinced only God brought into my life. I didn’t know Federal prisoners were moved around often from state to state, which means over the years MANY cross country trips from California to wherever he is located (usually on the East coast), at times with no guarantee he would be allowed a visit. I have made a few trips ending with no visit,..heartbreaking! In all this, I found it could be a few months between visits, or YEARS!
Over the years we have endured many ups and downs with the ultimate jolt being my diagnosis of cancer in June of 2019. We were blessed by the Lord of my healing and remission after a few months. It was hard for both of us not being together to tackle that hurdle together as it truly tested our love and commitment to each other as well as to the Lord!
Neither of us thought in the beginning that a chance encounter through pen pal letters would go this far, and it’s truly not the “norm” when meeting an inmate with 19 years to go! We now have 4 1/2 years to go until we can FINALLY start our lives together, though he is facing deportation in the end…another hurdle! We’re ready! And by the grace of God, we are looking forward to a long happy life together.
We never know where or when love will strike, and many people have asked (inappropriate) questions, as to why or how I am enduring this journey. This definitely requires a strong commitment, self-awareness, a supportive personal life, and strong faith in God.
To any other women who find themselves on this unique journey, I pray you keep the strength, love (of self also) and faith to get you through this, if you are truly with the right man it will last!!